How to resist someone’s else anger

What is anger?

Anger is a response to such stimuli as resentment, hurt self-esteem and mental suffering. The man gets angry and screams, trying to protect himself.

Anger is not just an emotion, but a form of affect. It is characterized by intensity and short duration. For a few minutes, not only the mental, but also the physiological state changes dramatically: muscles contract, blood flows, breathing becomes difficult.

The form and depth of its expression depend on the characteristics of socialization. If it is customary in the family to talk in raised tones, the child is more likely to become an impulsive person, igniting from any spark.

Anger is felt by everyone, regardless of gender, age, or race. A person in a rage often does not control his words and actions.

How to resist someone else’s anger

1. Breathe
Once you are in the field of view of an angry person and feel that his excitement is transmitted to you, start breathing slowly and deeply.
Try to take only 6-10 breaths per minute. Always through the nose. Slow breathing helps to calm down.

2. Get distracted
If you start to delve into the message of an angry person, there is a danger of getting involved in a fruitless debate. In order not to listen, remember some children’s song or rhyme.  You will distract yourself from the angry speeches of your opponent and miss his taunts.

3. Be ironic
A man in anger looks quite comical. If you manage to distract yourself from his words, you will certainly notice it. But do not mock the man. Smile kindly. And rage will be replaced by mercy.

4. Pull away
Go to another room, take a walk, do something.
If there is no chance to withdraw yourself, then do it in your head. Imagine that there is a brick wall between you and the person shouting at you. This will help build psychological protection.

5. Forgive
In anger, a person does not realize what he is doing. And when the rage has passed, he feels guilty. Make it clear that you do not hold a grudge. So it will be easier for the broken person to sincerely repent and resume a constructive dialogue.

Remember the Indian wisdom: he who does not respond with anger to anger saves both himself and the angry one.